Hello my Girls! Today I want to talk about what a purity ring is, if you should have one, and why I am so thankful that I do!
What’s a Purity Ring?
A purity ring is a simple ring that you wear on your left ring finger. It’s a place holder for your wedding ring.
A Purity Ring symbolizes a girl guarding her heart, mind, and body for her future husband. It shows that she’s not free to roam but she is being held herself pure and special for the man that will be with her forever. It’s a reminder when she sees it on her finger that she is special and God is saving her for someone who is worthy of replacing that ring.
A purity ring can signify more than that, if you want it to. It can also mean nothing to some girls.
Can I have one?
Anyone can have a purity ring. A purity ring is a position of the heart. If you want to guard and protect yourself for your future forever husband, you can have a purity ring. That’s the bottom line.
A purity ring is a reflection of what’s in your heart, whether you’re dated before, whether you’re a virgin or not.
Another questions I personally had when I got mine was, can girls buy themselves purity rings? Absolutely. In fact, girls SHOULD buy purity rings for themselves. Only girls can hold their hearts. At the end of this post I’ll be sharing links to some really cute and affordable purity rings.
My mom and dad bought me my purity ring and gifted it to me on my 13th birthday. I have been wearing it since then. The ring left my finger for about a month last year when I had it taken in to resize. Unfortunately my finger did grow over the course of seven years, so I needed to make it a bit bigger.
Anyway, back to the point! Your parents may not realize that you would like to commit to guarding your heart for your future husband. If that is something you would like to do, discuss it with them. Let them know that you would like to guard your heart, and you’re looking into getting a purity ring. You can move forward from there. If they do not take interest in that, you can go about it on your own. You can simply pray to God and commit before Him. You can also seek out a trusted friend or elder to share with. The commitment is yours and yours alone, and there’s nothing standing between you.
Why I love mine. (and a story)
Like I mentioned before, I am very glad that I have a purity ring. It’s reminds me in the hard times what I’m living for, and what I’m guarding my heart for. It’s brought my life back into perspective more than once, and that is priceless.
In addition to that, yesterday I was able to share my faith with a stranger because of it. I was helping a customer at the counter and he asked me what gem I have in my wedding ring. I laughed and told him it is my purity ring, and the gem is a diamond.
He was quite taken a-back and proceeded to ask what a purity ring was for. I told him that it was a place holder, representing that my dad held my heart until he gave it to my husband. The customer then said, “So then you are married.” I smiled and shook my head.
He was a smart man and returned my smile by saying, “So then, your future husband?”
Bingo.
I proceeded to tell him that I chose not to date. I’m going to be 21 in January, and I’m quite excited about that. But most people can’t comprehend that I haven’t been on a date. This customer said that he had lived in Philadelphia for some years of his life, and then moved to Seattle. He said that the immorality and ungodliness there was so bad that it drove him back to church.
I told him that good had come from that situation. Going to church was good for his soul. I told him that I was a Christian and I was raised Biblically. The girl waits in purity for the man to come and find her and take her for his wife. He was simply blown away and had lots of questions about it. As I spoke to him, in my head my heart kept saying “You prayed for a chance to glorify God. Here it is. You prayed for a chance to witness to the people around you. Here is your chance.”
The point.
After we had finished talking and he left, I had such a heavy weight on my chest. So much more I wished I had told him. I wished I had invited him to church. I wished I had asked him if he was saved. It’s difficult to know what the rules are when you are at work. I was the outfitter he was seeking help from. Was I within the guidelines to speak to him about religion? I don’t know. I wish I had been bolder. But that is beside the point.
The point is this. If I had not been wearing my purity ring he would never have asked. I would never have had the opportunity to share with him my faith. Oh how I wish I had said more. I ask God to forgive me and give me a boldness to say more next time. But I also trust that He will take that seed and water it and continue to chase that man.
Girls, everything in our lives reflects back on who we are. Do you stand out and live your life in a way that glorifies God? Do you pray that He gives you a boldness to share, and the opportunity, and the eyes to recognize that opportunity? How much help we need but Praise God He provides all of it!
Some super cute rings.
Don’t get discouraged.
Girls, purity rings are not there to get attention. They’re not their for anybody except you. I’ve worn mine for seven straight years. People have only asked me about it twice. I never take it off. They CAN be a point of conversation, but don’t expect people to ask you about it a lot. It’s for you.
Do you already have a purity ring? Did you like any of these? What are your thoughts on them? Should girls have them or not? Let’s talk in the comments!
I love this post, Libby! I’ve had my purity ring for three years. I wear it on my left index finger, and I only take it off when swimming (sometimes not even then). Thanks for addressing this topic, Libby. I think it’s one that needs addressed more often.
A-MEN to this!!! I was supposed to get a ring from my parents for my 18th and I was gonna consider it my purity ring. COVID happened, and we never did go ring shopping. But hopefully soon!
I personally don’t have a purity ring. And I’m not sure how I feel about them. I think they could be a reminder of what you are waiting for, and they could be a symbol to you of your promise to yourself, God, and your future husband to stay pure. But they could also end up just being a ring you wear cuz your parents want you too. It has to be something you want and truly believe for it to matter. So IMO, girls, if you want to wear a purity ring for you as a reminder, do it. Rock that ring, don’t let anyone stop you! If you don’t want to wear the ring, that’s fine too, and don’t let people tell you thats wrong. Know whats in your heart and make the decision for yourself on what you think God would want to you. Ultimately its between you, your future husband, and God.
Exactly! Well said Marissa! It’s your commitment, and not anybody else’s!
So true!! I love my purity ring and wear it all the time!! <3 It's such a good reminder to stay pure! I think I've had a couple people ask me about it. One time, I didn't really explain what it was for, I just said it was from my parents. I was so annoyed later on that I didn't explain!!