Halloo. I apologize this weeks post is late. It’s been crazy trying to get back into the school schedule.
Anway, today I’m going to share a list that I keep for myself that I want in my future husband.
Real quick before we jump into it, I want to let you all know that you please don’t have to agree with me. These are my guidelines for what I desire in a guy that I would end up spending the rest of my life with. You can edit this list or write a completely different one for yourself.
If you have a desire to marry one day and have a family I highly recommend making a list like this just so that you can see on paper what you want in a guy. This helps you to keep your eyes on what is most important and not compromise.
The first and most important thing in writing a list like this is knowing Who is in charge. God is my guide and my planner, and if He does not have it in my future for me to marry then that is His plan for me and I’m happy with is. For me, writing this list is not telling God that He’d better get me a husband that fits all these standards. This list is for me and not for God. Keep your future and life in God’s hands girls. Nothing could be better than what He has in store for you.
Feel free to edit this list however you feel you need to and add your own preferences or requirements.
Without further ado, here is my list (this is not in order of priority):
Things I Require in a Husband.
#1 A personal relationship with Jesus and visible evidence in his life of the fruit of the Spirit.
#2 A willingness and determination to lead our family physically, spiritually and emotionally.
#3 Hardworking and ready to provide for the family.
#4 Caring, kind, respectful, considerate. I want him to see me as his partner and helpmeet.
#5 Loves me as his own self.
#6 Slow to anger, slow to speak, and swift to listen.
#7 Just, not easily swayed by emotion of opinion. Have a backbone!
#8 Encouraging each family member to pursue a relationship with Jesus on our own, and also encouraging us to share (by listening!).
#9 Having never been in another physical relationship.
#10 Someone willing to call me out on a problem, but in a kind respectful loving way. I want his calling me out to grow me and not to shut me up (figuratively, he might technically shut me up XD)
There’s the list. Now that we have it written, go back and look at it and see if you are in the right position with all of these requirements yourself. Seeing, if you want him to be slow to anger and swift to listen, are you slow to anger and quick to listen? You cannot demand something from someone when you are not willing to work towards bettering yourself. And at this current point you’re not yet married so all the better you can draw closer to God and learn these things without yet having a partner!
In addition to a list of things that you need in a husband, you can also make a list of things you desire. You can be specific or general. Personally I tired to stay on a bit more of the general side. For example, I didn’t put what color I want his hair or eyes to be. That may be crossing into the part of your heart that you need to guard and not dream about just yet.
Things I Desire in a Husband.
#1 I would like him to be taller than me.
#2 Funny, but serious when necessary.
#3 Willingness to be a foster dad, but this might change depending on where God leads.
#4 Financially stable.
#5 Having good parents, because I want really good in-laws.
#6 Grew up with same or very similar view points on guy/girl relationships and raising kids Etc.
#7 Willing to raise the bar constantly for our family spiritually.
#8 Wants/is ok with me being a stay at home mom.
#9 Agrees with homeschooling? (This won’t make or break the relationship, but is fairly important to discuss)
#10 Sarcastic, but not to the point where you just want to punch him.
So that’s that. What do you think? Do you have a list of qualities that you would like in your future husband? Would you like to read more posts like this? If you want to read more about similar topics, click here where I have a category of past posts with similar ideas. 😀 Thank you for reading!